As a new preemie parent

It is important to remember that most people are not prepared to become a preemie parent. Those first days can feel like an overwhelming challenge as you not only process your emotions but also cram for your new role. Below are some general tips to help you with the transition.

1. Start a journal- Even on clear headed days it can be difficult to retain large amounts of information, especially medical jargon. A journal will help you get to know you baby and organize your thoughts. In today’s internet based society there are also online journals that make getting to know your baby a snap. Check out our favorite BabbleSoft.com

2. Ask questions- If you have a question don’t be afraid to ask and have things explained in non-medical terms. Doctors and nurses are there to help, so make sure you take advantage of the time you spend with them while your baby is in the hospital. March of Dimes suggests considering the following questions.

• How is my baby doing today?
• Has anything changed?
• What caused this condition?
• How will this equipment or medication help my baby?
• What types of tests are being given to my baby and what information will they provide?
• Who is in charge of my baby's medical care?
• Who should I call if I have questions about my baby's condition?
• How will I be informed of any major change in my baby's condition?
• Can I hold my baby?
• What can I do to take care of my baby?

For more information visit March of Dimes

3. Ask for help- Chances are, news of your early bird will have friends and family lining up to give you a hand. Ask for help from those around you so you can focus on the health of your baby. Find out if a neighbor can mow your lawn when they do theirs or help with grocery shopping. Ask grandparents to shop for products you will need for your preemie.

4. Take time for yourself- Don’t feel guilty if you can’t be in the NICU at all times. Taking time to concentrate on your physical and emotional health can be one of the best gifts you can give your preemie. Feeling rested and organized will make your time in the NICU much more organized.

5. Get to know your baby (not your preemie)- With all that is going on it can be easy to overlook the fact that you are the proud parent of a new baby. Make sure that every so often you enjoy your moments as just parent and baby.

6. Get support- Support groups are a great way to get a crash course in preemie parenting. There are over a million parents that go through this each year in the United States. By joining a local or online support group you can get the answers from the people who already know about the challenges of preemie parenting.